How I Silenced that Voice in My Head

How I Silenced that Voice in My Head

How I Silenced that Voice in my Head

March 4, 2015

Two years ago, I went through a phase that felt suspiciously like a mid-life crisis. I could no longer find joy in my husband, our three-year old son, or my work. I felt like the entire world was at war, and that I was powerless to do anything about it. Despair over not having published the book I’d been writing for six years pressed down on me all the time. I couldn’t get pregnant, either—we had been trying for fifteen months—and this failure took me into the darkest depths of self-loathing. On the surface, my life was busy and full. But I felt this immense pressure, as if in my efforts to strive for something called “balance,” I was just barely managing to stay upright.

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You Can’t Imagine “Life Without Kids?” I Can.

You Can’t Imagine “Life Without Kids?” I Can.

You “Can’t Imagine Life Without Kids?” I Can.

 

November 7, 2014

 

“How was your sister’s baby shower?” I asked my friend Steph. She was gathering muddy clothes off the floor and wiping dried yogurt from the table while our 4-year-old sons hammered a plank of wood to bits in the front yard. 

 

“Meh. All Jen wanted was one last hurrah as a childless adult. Instead, everyone talked about their kids and how they just ‘can’t imagine’ their lives without them.”

 

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Don’t Do That in Public!

Don’t Do That in Public!

Don’t Do That in Public!

July 23, 2013

I’ll never forget when a friend told me a story about a mom she knew. “She totally yelled at her kid,” my friend said. “In public!”

I try to practice equal-opportunity parenting: be kind to my kid in private, be kind to him in public. I try not to do things out in the world that I wouldn’t do at home because it makes me feel icky. Kids, of course, don’t live by the same rule. Scratch their butts in private, scratch their butts in public; what’s the difference?

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